Hello My name is Shane Garrison and I’m a Introvert. Haha, that just sounded like I was at some meeting for help and need healed, LOL. Anyways, I wanted to take the time to explain to those that may be extroverts on how we think.
You see, it’s not some rare disease or some curse from god there are actually many of us out there. I may come across a bit sarcastic in this article but it is all in good fun.
Here are some of the things that I’ve personally heard that I would like to elaborate on.
OMG, Your life seems so sad you spend too much time alone
Well, To those of you who think this let me explain how us introverts think about this. We prefer alone time, it’s not that we can’t get along well with others. The fact is many introverts have great social skills but the difference between you extroverts and us introverts is that we do not need to be around
large social settings.
Most of introverts CHOOSE to interact in smaller groups rather than large crowds.
Extroverts needs people as it energizes them, whereas introverts energy will get drained by being in large
social gatherings to long. I heard one introvert say that out of every hour of socializing they need at least two hours of alone time to recoup, great example. So don’t feel sad for us introverts as we prefer it.
It’s not that we are rude or don’t like you its just that we only prefer being around you in small doses or else we become mentally and physically drained. So again don’t take it personal, it is just the way most
Now to you Introverts reading this don’t get offended!
I don’t want my other introvert brothers and sisters of this world to feel as if I am slapping some label on us. But I know that many people will be searching on why their boyfriend, girlfriend, Friends are the way they are. So for this article purposes I will slap a label on us to explain to those readers.
I can’t believe you go places by yourself like the movie theater or diner.
As stated above, Introverts enjoy time alone. Now don’t get me wrong… Yes, we do like company but we only enjoy company when we choose to be around company. I hope that makes sense, It’s really hard for a extrovert to understand a introvert because extroverts thrive for people interaction. They need it and couldn’t imagine being alone locked up by themselves for a entire day. So again don’t feel sorry for me that I’m sitting at this table or watching this movie alone, I’m really actually enjoying myself.
Why don’t you give a lot of feedback at our job meetings, you should participate more!
It’s not that I’m not listening or don’t care. I’m actually taking in every word and analyzing in my head different variances of solutions. You see extroverts will speak without much thought some of the time, not all so please don’t take that as a insult. The majority of Introverts are thinkers, we will analyze several ideas in our heads and choose the best one before speaking. So , please don’t judge us for not interacting as much in those meetings. As it’s often that it is a introvert that will save the day when it comes to a solution :-).
I’m a Extrovert dating a Introvert any advice?
Well, in my eyes you being here right now reading this is telling me that you’re willing to understand and accept your introvert, So that is a good thing! There are many introvert and extrovert relationships and marriages. It can work well as long as both parties understand each other. I think the extrovert needs to realize that the introvert needs their space at times. While the introvert needs to understand that their extrovert needs people interaction . So as long as you both understand each other and there is balance I believe that your relationship can work well.
In closing, when you see someone that enjoys alone time do not write them off as lonely, sad , or miserable. There is a good chance that they are a introvert.
Thanks for reading everyone,
Please leave a comment , thoughts?